Time passes before our eyes with a dynamic speed and we find ourselves often in the uncomfortable position of being behind plan if we even have made concrete plans. The question remains from which position are we going to look back onto a specific year when we reach it’s end? Will it be a year of significant progress and success? Will we have achieved the goals we had set?
As insinuated earlier, the pre-condition is that one has set the right goals and actually put them in writing. However, if the feeling of having “lost valuable time already” is prevalent and established plans are not on track one may have to take action fast! The first step should always be to clearly define what success means to you personally and one must not get distracted by the notion what others may think about one’s view of success. This definition is yours ONLY!
In looking at some of the people who achieve success and those who don’t … people who become super-successful and those who don’t, I have found some interesting differences:
- Those who aren’t successful (by there own definition of success) never set goals and often live a life without clear direction or purpose.
- Those who are just OK wait until the start of every year to lay out resolutions or goals for the year but generally have abandoned them before the first quarter has gone by. For the rest of the year they are usually working toward other people’s goals (the boss, company, “the Joneses”, etc.). They don’t truly own any goals.
- Those who really succeed, and, many become world-class in achieving their success, already have a vision for themselves, a plan in place and are ready to go whenever they set a new goal.
They are also more likely to use professional coaches, consultants and other advisers to help them meet their goals and be their accountability partners. Getting outside support has become much more common during the last 5 years while top performers in sports and business have been utilizing such services for a long time. People often believe that one has to become successful before retaining a professional coach – to the contrary, it is the other way around. It has also become apparent over the recent years that some people – those who want to achieve improvements at “quantum-leap” levels – require something more. They appreciate the follow-up, accountability and guidance that a professional coach or mentor can deliver. It is much more effective to partner with someone experienced who can help with tackling challenges and enhancing one’s inherent strengths to new levels. Investing into a quality coaching experience must be done with desired results and clear expectations in mind! One should always consider tangible benefits & consequences and compare that value versus the investment into a personal coaching relationship.
When evaluating coaching always ask yourself what you want to get out of it and see if your potential coach is interested in such an approach, too. A professional coach will ultimately co-create with you a specific plan and strategy for your success otherwise the coaching relationship could become a “rent a friend” experience with limited tangible results.
The bottom-line is that it’s all about results:
- Bottom line results from a professional perspective
- Work/Life balance to help become a better leader (don’t forget, leadership skills are important for anyone that needs to influence other people to do something they would not have done by themselves – and leadership begins with self leadership!), parent, spouse, sibling, friend, colleague, etc.
- Improving influencing (sales) skills
- Create and guide personal life goals onto a successful and sustainable path
Whomever you may chose to become your personal development partner you should always ascertain that the person can provide real value to you and is fully committed to your success. Change of habits and attitude aren’t easy and growth in any aspect does not come for free! Chances are one has attempted the “easy way” already. Maybe a book on sales has been read or some seminars have been attended. Those probably generated lots of great ideas or reinforced ones already known, but in the end nothing of significance changed.
To succeed, both, the individual in question as well as the coach have to be fully committed to the process and the desired outcome. In addition to understanding what one may need from a coach, one should be prepared that a professional coach has certain specific expectations of the person to be coached, too. One will be held accountable. One will have to do a lot of work. It’s a responsibility that both stakeholders of the coaching arrangement must take seriously to get the desired results. After all the race can’t be run by the coach, it has to be run by the runner, but the coach can show the runner ways to practice right and ultimately ways to win it.
In the selection process, both, the individual and the coach have front end expectations that need to be evaluated, understood and agreed on. They certainly should include:
- Is the person to be coached serious about changing – NOW?
- Is the coaching client willing to do what’s necessary and not just interested to talk about it?
- Will the client be accountable and do the work necessary to reach the goals he or she has set forth?
If the above questions can be concluded in a positive manner one is ready to begin the search for the right professional. Aside of the professional qualifications the right “wave length” between client and coach is crucial for a successful relationship.
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© Copyright 2016 Manfred Gollent, Executive Business Coach, QLI International